What does it mean to always dream of the same person in different ways; what the unconscious tells us and how to interpret it?
Investigate dreams to get to know each other
Dreams represent a great way of self – investigation and allow us to get in touch with parts of us that do not immediately come to consciousness. In some cases, we speak of “oneironauts”, or people who want to fully explore their dream dimension to draw lessons, messages, and ways of knowing themselves.
The term “oneironaut” was born thanks to the Dutch psychiatrist and writer Frederik van Eeden who, in his 1913 article entitled “A Study of Dreams” indicates and describes lucid dreaming. The lucid dreamer or oneironaut becomes aware that he is dreaming when he does it. He immediately realizes that he is dreaming and is able to act on the dream itself, modifying its outcome and evolution as he wishes. He decides to fly instead of falling, skiing instead of swimming, floating instead of walking. This allows him to have great control and, in the meantime, become aware of important internal movements. In many cases, lucid dreams are also a source of creative impetus and inspiration.
For example, it seems that the writer Mary Shelley, wrote Frankenstein and the idea of the plot came to her because of a dream, the physicist Nikola Tesla (on whose dream dimension a lot of literature was written and continues to be written), Elias Howe who gives Dreams drew inspiration to invent the sewing machine. It seems that Friedrich August Kekulé discovered the chemical structure of benzene following a dream. Even Google seems to have been born under Larry Page’s dream inspiration. Apparently, science also owes insulin to dreams: Frederick Banting is the scientist who is credited with the idea that insulin had a relevant efficacy in the treatment of diabetes; the discovery that earned him the Nobel at only 32 years old.
Dreaming does not always happen while we sleep but mainly responds to a specific phase: the so-called REM sleep phase. Some recent research states that we also dream during non-REM sleep (NREM) and this would indicate that we, therefore, dream not only when we are near the awakening phase but also at other times. It also seems that each phase of sleep would also correspond to different dreams. During REM sleep we tend to meet in the dream dimension people we meet in real life or we know in everyday life. In the NREM phase, on the other hand, we tend to meet on a dream level even with people we have never met and who usually mean something else.
Meaning of the dream
And if we end up always dreaming of the same person, what does it mean? What does it mean? Should we worry? Let’s start by saying that the dream dimension should not be analyzed in a strictly rational sense but requires specific keys that allow us to read the subconscious; secondly, dreams also teach us to let go of understanding by rational force. Sometimes we don’t have to understand at all costs and we simply have to let the images act in us, through us. Basically, the dream also has the role of “sorting”, disposal, and assimilation. If something happens to us, the dream allows us to process it in a non-rational, non-analytic way.
The classic case in which you always dream of the same person? One or one ex. If this happens, don’t panic, it doesn’t necessarily mean you want to go back. It is a signal, of the re-emergence of something that that person represents for you and in you. In dreams, people and situations change constantly so do not remain crystallized in what you have dreamed of. Rather, take it as a signal that you can read not immediately in the short term but in the medium / long term.
Sometimes the person we dream of frequently does not even know too well or it is a person who teaches us, a colleague, an employer, or a friend with whom we are or are not in contact. In other cases, a parent or relative is often dreaming. Our mind when we dream tidies up in its own way and purifies. You may be experiencing a moment of particular anxiety if the frequency with which you dream of the person is also associated with worry or uncomfortable situations (dreaming of missing something, not having clothes, not knowing how to solve a puzzle, or not having the keys, of being overwhelmed, receiving blackmail or incomprehensible words, etc).
Sometimes the person points out the scope, in the sense that if it is a colleague or a professor, for example, you may be anxiously experiencing something about work in general. Dreaming of a deceased loved one means being in the process of elaboration and detachment and always represents a significant factor to talk about with the therapist or therapist of reference.
Writing recurring dreams is a wonderful way to be sure of giving the unconscious a signal of care and attention towards the dream dimension, as precious as it is revealing. If you find it hard to remember your dreams but you have the feeling that you are always dreaming of the same person, you could, before going to bed, leave a text or a notebook relating to your dreams or read something about it; you will send to your unconscious in this way a specific signal that could trivially be translated as “I love myself and take care of my dreams”.